"When you stop chasing the wrong things you give,
the right things will have a chance to catch you"
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” - maria robinson
Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.
This is the plan I made for the shoot.
The feeling of constraint will never set you free and will never make you happy. So it is not that bad to sometimes break the rules, rules are there to be followed and sometimes broken for us to realize of what life can truly offer.
My friends visited me then showed them the plans for my shoot.. cool thing is one of them is up to do a shoot following one of the plans I drew. It took me a lot of time tying the twines, it would be perfect if i have thick red strings but unfortunately, i wasn't able to provide one earlier.
So what i have in mind is that we are sometimes blinded by our own wrong doings and we fail to notice that we are already destroying our selves, putting barriers to happiness and make our selves a prison of constraint. This then represented by the blindfold and the strings for the rules, constraints and for the what-may-people-think thinking.. these hold us back from true happiness.
So I have read this blog and hopefully can help.. ENJOY! ^_^
1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life
is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.If someone wants you in their life, they'll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to
fight for a spot.Never, ever insist
yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand
by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when
you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
2.
Stop running from your problems. – Face them
head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of
flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.
We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt,
stumble and fall. Because that’s the
whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over
the course of time. This is what
ultimately molds us into the person we become.
3.
Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone
else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances,
and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with
ourselves. Read The Road Less Traveled.
4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner.
– The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone
too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your
passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
5.
Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of
the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to
make you like everyone else. Someone
will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be
younger, but they will never be you.
Don’t change so people will like you.
Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
6.
Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t
start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
7.
Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing
something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing
nothing. Every success has a trail of
failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT
do far more than the things you did.
8.
Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We
may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how
things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and
things that are right for us. We all
make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not
your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your
future. Every single thing that has ever
happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
9.
Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the
things we desire are expensive. But the
truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter
and working on our passions.
10.
Stop exclusively looking to others for
happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be
happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life
first before you can share it with someone else. Read Stumbling on Happiness.
11.
Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or
you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive
action. You cannot change what you
refuse to confront. Making progress
involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your
foot on first.
12.
Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever
feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force
us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally
comfortable at first.
13.
Stop getting involved in relationships for the
wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad
company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen –
in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love
when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
14.
Stop rejecting new relationships just because
old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for
everyone you meet. Some will test you,
some will use you and some will teach you.
But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
15.
Stop trying to compete against everyone else. –
Don’t worry about what others doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every
day. Success is a battle between YOU and
YOURSELF only.
16.
Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the
art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone
wants?”
17.
Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself.
– Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction
that is meant for you. You may not see
or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs
thrown at you in the past. You’ll often
see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or
situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot
stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
18.
Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life
with hate in your heart. You will end up
hurting yourself more than the people you hate.
Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you
did to me ruin my happiness forever.”
Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other
people, it’s for you too. If you must,
forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
19.
Stop letting others bring you down to their
level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to
raise theirs.
20.
Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others.
– Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.
21.
Stop doing the same things over and over without
taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time
for it. If you keep doing what you’re
doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.
Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
22.
Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. –
Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they
were the big things. The best portion of
your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone
who matters to you.
23.
Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real
world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things
done. Read Getting Things Done.
24.
Stop following the path of least resistance. –
Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something
worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way
out. Do something extraordinary.
25.
Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t.
– It’s okay to fall apart for a little while.
You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to
constantly prove that everything is going well.
You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either –
cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be
able to smile again.
26.
Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The
extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you
take responsibility for your life. When
you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you
give others power over that part of your life.
27.
Stop trying to be everything to everyone. –
Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the
world. Maybe not the whole world, but
their world. So narrow your focus.
28.
Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip
tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth
mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s
time? Three years? Five years?”
If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
29.
Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen.
– Focus on what you do want to happen.
Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought
that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close
attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
30.
Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or
bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately
fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking
about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else
is missing.
i got this article from:
http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/12/11/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/
